For Dyslexics—You Are Amazing!

By Kathleen Dunbar, CA Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Hakomi Therapist 

You’re dyslexic? Wow! That means you have some amazing gifts! The planet needs your unique brilliance! 

If you’d rather listen to the article than read, there are audio links on every page! Listen or download for free. Find the audio at: Audio on Dyslexia

What you’ll find on these pages: 

These pages and articles are dedicated to understanding: 

  • What dyslexia is and how the dyslexic brain works.
  • Dyslexic strengths explained. 
  • The unique challenges of growing up dyslexic on emotional wellbeing: Key areas of difficulty and suggestions for support. 
  • Resources: Videos of dyslexics speaking about their experiences; books and articles; inspiration and information.
  • The kinds of psychotherapy that are best suited for dyslexics.

For an in-depth look at dyslexia and lots of information on your dyslexic brilliance and challenges, there are FOUR ways to check out this article:
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Downloadable PDF–Go to this LINK and look for the article Dyslexics–You Are Amazing

 

 

Countering the Effects of Social Distancing through Live Video Connections with Friends and Family

Here’s a short video from Stephen Porges, one of the leading specialists on healing trauma through social engagement. It’s so important right now to reach out and both see and hear our friends and family on video and phone because that regulates our nervous systems, restoring resilience, aliveness, compassion and generosity. Texts and emails are helpful, but not enough: We are biologically wired to need to hear, see and feel others as we co-regulate. Though we can’t use touch during this time as we normally would, hearing a loved one’s voice and seeing a friend’s smile go a long way to help us ground and relax. Here’s the link:  Stephen Porges on Co-Regulating and Countering the Effects of Social Distancing 

Coming Home To Your Untarnishable Golden Self

All your choices have brought you to this moment. You did the best you could. Thank the voices that criticize you by telling them “I know you’re only trying to help.” I mean it–really do this–thank them! That’s an audacious and sophisticated act that results in a healing shift in the following way: When you thank your critics, you are actually adding some needed separation between yourself and them and you’re doing something very healing. The self that has the ability to thank your critics is your True Self, so capable and amazing, and untarnishable as gold. Because after all, the critics are the valiant security team you hired as a kid to make sense of a disrupted and hurtful world. They just go into overdrive and that’s the problem. But here’s one way to begin to change the channel. Give it a try, tell them thanks. Feel for the little bit of space and calm that comes. Breathe. Congratulations, you’ve just come back home!

Share Fav Recipes With Friends!

Change up your dinner plans by emailing your favorite recipes with friends! I’m gluten free, but hands down these are the best brownies I’ve ever had, gluten or no gluten. 

Paleo Brownies a la Yum! 

1 cup blanched almond flour  (notalmond meal, must be almond flour)
¼ tsp sea salt
¼ tsp baking soda
4 oz unsweetened baking chocolate (100% cacao) (hard, notmelted)
7 large Medjool dates, pits removed, cut in thirds
3 large eggs
½ cup coconut oil, melted—buy it in a glass jar not plastic, so you can melt it in microwave or set it in a pot and boil the water to melt it
¼ tsp vanilla
1/4 to 1/3 cup maple syrup
1/3 to 1/2 cup walnuts (optional) 

  • Heat oven to 350. 
  • Grease a 8”x8” square pan greased lightly with coconut oil You need a food processor to make this recipe. 
  • In a food processor, pulse together almond flour, sea salt and baking soda. 
  • Pulse in squares of dark chocolate until texture is like coarse sand. 
  • Pulse in dates until the texture of coarse sand. 
  • Beats eggs slightly in a bowl first then pulse in. 
  • You can melt the coconut oil directly in the jar in the microwave, melting enough until you can pour ½ cup into the measuring cup—then pulse that in until the mixture is smooth. 
  • Pulse in vanilla and maple syrup. 
  • Transfer mixture to pan. 
  • Mixture will be thick, so spread with a spatula or tip pan so mixture goes into corners. 
  • Regarding walnuts—be careful in the food processor. You only want to mix them in the batter and be careful not to make them small but keep them large. If you buy whole walnuts, do 3-6 one-second pulses to cut them up a bit. If you buy already small pieces, just pulse for 1-3 seconds to mix them in the batter. 
  • Bake at 350 degrees for 30-35 minutes or until a toothpick comes out clean andthe brownies shrink a bit from the sides of the pan andthey smell “done.” Your oven may be different than mine. 
  • Cool for a bit, if you have fortitude. When cool enough, turn out of the pan, cut into squares, put them in a container, and refrigerate. If you refrigerate them in the pan they won’t turn out of the pan. I think they taste best chilled. 
  • Yummmmmmmm!

Stop and Smell the Roses


When you literally stop and smell the roses, your heart lifts, and your brain and body give you feel-good signals that help shift the rest of your day. Where are the roses for you? Here’s a photo of my neighbors’ roses taken last spring! Right now as we are inside our homes, it’s so important to take time to stop and hear a bird singing outside, to smell a favorite meal cooking, to savor the first mouthful, to hold a loved one’s hand and look in their eyes, to feel moved by listening to a favorite song. Using the senses of the body–touch, taste, vision, scent, sound–help us ground in the moment. Better yet–go a step further and “take the elevator down” into your chest because when you stay for a moment or two with the appreciation of what you are sensing, your system swaps out stress hormones for feel-good hormones, your nervous system calms, and you ground.

My Song in Top Ten for Last Three Months!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Top Ten Three Months Running!

My original song “In The Hole” from my most recent album Liars, Cutthroats and Dames is in Ourstage’s Top Ten for the past three months! Check it out here: https://kathleendunbar.bandcamp.com/track/in-the-hole-2

Please check out al of my tunes at:
My Website: https://www.kathleendunbarmusic.com/store
Bandcamp: https://kathleendunbar.bandcamp.com

This Saturday, April 6, Kathleen performs live at Heart Tribe in Fairfax, CA at 7pm!

KATHLEEN’S SHOW! THIS COMING SATURDAY: April 6 at Heart Tribe in Fairfax!

DATE:  Saturday, April 6
TIME:  Doors open 6:45pm and Show at 7pm
WHERE:  Heart Tribe 7 Bolinas Road Fairfax, CA 94930
COST:  $20 Advance, $25 at the Door
TICKETS: Purchase Tickets Here

Please come join Kathleen Dunbar for this intimate limited seating engagement. Advance tickets recommended to reserve your seat! Purchase Tickets Here 

• This will be a celebration of specially selected songs from her musical catalog.
• You’ll hear songs from her first three albums, including her most recently released album Liars, Cutthroats and Dames. Plus a sneak peek into songs from her upcoming fourth album of love songs, Smoochy Smoo.
• Let her beguile and bewitch you, inspire you, break your heart, and make you laugh! Her songs are vignettes into our very-human temptations and redemptions, with a good dose of humor whilst the angels and devils bet which way we go at the crossroads.
• You can listen to Kathleen here: kathleendunbar.com

Kathleen Dunbar and her literally amazing band of talented Better Devils, achieves a rare and utterly unique blend of musical and lyrical symmetry. Highly recommended!”—Russell David“Kathleen Dunbar has just renewed my appreciation for story-telling songs. The genres mix beautifully to form a potent eye of the storm into which you’ll gladly be swept.”—Music Emissions

This will be an intimate evening with Kathleen–Advanced Tickets recommended. Purchase Tickets Here 

Kathleen Dunbar San Francisco Singer-Songwriter Kathleen Dunbar performs her blend of rootsy, humorous, and spellbinding storytelling about tragedy and redemption through her original song compositions in the Americana tradition. Join her on a musical journey into the darkness of the heart, love, betrayal, steamy romance, and the transformation of the spirit after passing through the flames. These are stories about us as we face the circumstances we humans get ourselves into and the choices that we ultimately make—some of them funky, some of them ending in the dark, others rising into the light of morning.

For this intimate evening Kathleen will be joined by her guitarist, producer and multi-instrumentalist Gawain Mathews and stand up bass player Ben Levine.

Gawain Mathews gigs with Kathleen Dunbar as her guitarist and banjo player. His magic thread runs all through the music you hear. Gawain is Kathleen’s arranger and producer. On her CDs he plays guitar, mandola, banjo, keyboards, pedal steel, accordion and percussion. Gawain hails from the wilds of Wales and the hot deserts of Utah (he prefers clouds to sun). He brings multiple skills as producer and arranger and years of musicianship in a wide range of styles. He’s toured as guitarist for Mickey Hart. Gawain has had his original music featured on Fox’s American Idol and So You Think You Can Dance. Currently he’s a music producer in the San Francisco Bay Area working with a diverse roster of clients and styles.

Ben Levine is a bassist whose performing career has taken him to all 50 States, Europe, China, Canada, and Central America. He has performed as a sideman with some of the top recording stars in country music including multi-platinum artists Neal McCoy and Mark Wills, as well as former American Idol Josh Gracin. Ben is also a founding member of the groundbreaking bluegrass tribute band “Honeywagon” whose 2003 album “Green Day Blue Grass” spent over a year in the top 10 of Billboard’s Bluegrass Album Chart reaching as high as the #3 position. Ben was also a featured performer on the Grammy winning classical album “Guitar Heroes” by the Los Angeles Guitar Quartet. An active musician in the Bay Area, Ben teaches at Diablo Valley College and performs with several popular local groups including, The Boombox, Bell and Co., Haulin’ Oats, and The Urban Outlaws. Visit Ben’s bluegrass site at: http://honeywagonmusic.com

This will be an intimate evening with Kathleen. Advance Tickets recommended.

If You Fall

 

If You Fall

Rest all the way down
through the bottom of the pond
and its gravel nibbled by the fishes.
Go past to where
the moist soil rests like leavened bread
upon the crockery of the bedrock earth.
Beneath the plates of ancient seas and poured volcanoes
put yourself away
into the lower cupboards of time and gravity
until you feel the pulled pulse of all your atoms
begin to agree with the atomic signatures of all things.

The rabbit comes out of her hole,
no one’s dinner
at the moment;
this evening the sky a deepening blue
held in the rabbit’s eye—
her nose a delight of twitches
for the tender grasses
and the medley of the toothwort
and plantain.
The twin white starflowers of the mayapple
nod beneath their umbrella leaves
and release sweetness
into the rising evening wind.
Rabbit sits upon
the cushions of moss
plumped by an earlier rain;
the air is washed;
no toothed thing is about
that would end a rabbit’s dinner for good—
for her at this moment
there is just a noseful of delight
while her ears are listening.

We are always waiting for death
in some form
and hoping to eat our dinner in peace.
The rabbit cleans her face with her paw,
ladylike and nibbling grasses in between.

Go down below the dreaming, aching brevity of humans,
begin to feel the agreement among all things
that those prayers given at the center core’s throb
are holy.
Everything else knows this—
we are the only ones
who fret whether or not
to give our prayers
or how to give them,
worry if they are enough
or turn them off
like a switch
as if that could be done anyway.
Look how the young rabbit prays
while nibbling;
the elderly rabbit
a bit threadbare and lean
but alert and intelligent
offers a different prayer,
more brief, as the fox arrives.

Does it turn out okay?
The way is full of holes.
Your old shoes never fit well anyway
and it hurts to stumble.
My dear, you’ve done the best you could
given all the odds.

The prayer of that which is all-the-way down
returns upward to you.
If you fall
you will meet it.
You might as well let yourself be loved.

© Kathleen Dunbar

Dyslexics: You Are Amazing!

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Dyslexics you are amazing! 1 in 10 people are dyslexic, and the numbers may be as high as 1 in 5! Here are highlights and links from the First Global Summit about Dyslexia, Oct 2018. Your brains are wonderfully different than non-dyslexic brains. When properly supported, you can use your amazing gifts to thrive and to help solve the complex problems the world faces. Please check out info from the Global Summit below, And please also check out lots of info on my website at www.kathleendunbar.net under the For Dyslexics section.

Video:
First Global Summit about Dyslexia October 2018, from Made by Dyslexia—Highlights

Pledge:
Made by Dyslexia Pledge for companies, educators and governments to pledge to value dyslexic thinking, and to begin taking positive steps towards supporting dyslexia
Follow the link to read and share the Made by Dyslexia Pledge:
http://madebydyslexia.org/assets/downloads/made-by-dyslexia-pledge.pdf

Spelling It Out:
“This simple guide gives essential information about dyslexia, how to support it, and how to advocate for it.” —Made by Dyslexia
http://madebydyslexia.org/assets/downloads/spelling-it-out.pdf

EY-Made by Dyslexia Report:
EY-Made by Dyslexia Report on the Value of Dyslexia to Business, Coordinated with the latest World Economic Forum’s change in demand for core-related work-related skills 2015-2020, all industries
http://madebydyslexia.org/assets/downloads/EY-the-value-of-dyslexia.pdf

Synopsis:
“There needs to be a refocusing, now more than ever, of how dyslexic ability is viewed in the context of the changing world of work: schools must recognize dyslexia as a valuable way of thinking; understand the importance of discovering dyslexic challenges and strengths; and provide support which enables dyslexic individuals to reach their full potential. We hope this report will be the tipping point that enables the world to see the value of dyslexia and highlights why dyslexia should be a priority in schools. As this report shows, the working world can benefit from dyslexic minds.” —Kate Griggs Founder and CEO of Made by Dyslexia

“In this report, we analyze how dyslexic strengths match closely to the pressing skill requirements of the changing world and have provided recommendations to nurture and grow these abilities. Our findings show the huge benefits to be had from taking action to maximize dyslexic strengths. With this in mind, we trust our work will help in seeing the value of proactively educating, recruiting, developing and retaining those with dyslexia.” —Richard Addison, Dyslexia Network Partner Sponsor

 

 

Dive Deeper into my New CD “Liars, Cutthroats and Dames.” The Back Story behind my song “Circus.” Get a FREE SONG DOWNLOAD!

Hello Everybody!

FREE DOWNLOAD of “Circus”
For a limited time get a FREE DOWNLOAD of my song Circus from my just released album Liars, Cutthroats and Dames. Here’s the link:
https://kathleendunbarmusic.com/get-a-free-download-here

THE BACK STORY BEHIND MY SONG “Circus”
Where do my songs come from? I feel they might be playing in some other universe and I receive a transmission right into my radio heart-brain. Somehow I “hear” them and out they flow from my voice and pen! The original impetus for the song “Circus” on my brand new album Liars, Cutthroats and Dames is a dream I had one night! In the dream I was laying in a large bed on a mezzanine with the various wild acts of a circus happening on every level of the oddly shaped building. Suddenly a knife thrower appeared and threw his knifes with lightning speed all around my body, outlining me! He was almost completely accurate. One of the knives gave a papercut graze to my cheek. In the dream I wondered, “Hm, I wonder if it’s a good idea or not to date him?” Ha! I woke up and thought, “My god! This is a song!” and proceeded to tell the story of the knifethrower. You will hear in the instrumental section a theramin, an instrument I love, which renders so well the tight-rope drama of the circus. My producer-multi-instrumentalist Gawain Mathews perfectly arranged the song with an organ carrying forward the larger than life pulse of the circus, and plays the idiosyncratic voices of an accordion, mandola, banjo and guitar. We got a big virtual “Piatti” symbol crash. And BIG thanks to Nicholas Daniel Wlodarszyk for his completely awesome comic trombone. Here’s the opening lyrics:

a freak as a boy on the far side of hell
he lived by his wits in a crumbling motel

with the eyes of a gunner, a rock steady aim
all that he lacked was a good looking dame



charm won the girl and the damage was done

his prospects weren’t much but it sounded like fun

when the call comes for you and you step in the ring

inside the big tent you get to be king!



. . . for the rest of the lyrics click here: https://kathleendunbar.bandcamp.com/track/circus

HOW TO LISTEN TO THE ENTIRE CD: You can listen to complete tracks of the entire album at this link on my Store page: https://www.kathleendunbarmusic.com/store
You can listen to all of the songs on the album three times for free before being prompted to purchase. You can purchase the album via Itunes, Amazon, etc. simply by visiting the links on my website Store page. In addition to offering a digital download, you can also order a physical CD from CDBaby—again, right there on my Store page.

PLEASE SPREAD THE WORD:
Please feel free to forward this to anyone who you feel would like to accompany me on this musical journey. Thank you in advance for your support, my dears!

Love, Kathleen

Photography by Joseph Feusi
All songs copyrighted by Kathleen Dunbar